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Have you ever been proposed to? We were watching Definitely Maybe the other night and were talking about proposals. When I got married, I had the sweetest proposal. We were in the shower together; she was getting ready to leave for work. I had just finished scrubbing her back and she turned around, facing me, got down on her knees and asked me to marry her. While the water was running down my face and my hair was in a disarray, I said yes and kissed her. We were married shortly after.

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I know it has been awhile since I have written, but a lot has been going on since my father’s death.  I have managed to keep myself very busy with work, school work, friends, and my hobbies.  I picked up a part time job as a nanny for a 1 month old.  That I think will be a fun job and keep me busy over the summer.  I also have a job interview with an ad agency and another with a company where I will work remotely 99% of the time.  My car died but I think with current fuel prices I am going to look into buying a scooter.  My son passed 11th grade and is going to get his license next week.  My baby is growing up so fast.  The kids are coming over to work on the house next week so that should keep them busy and out of trouble.  There is lots of painting to do and plenty of hardy kids to put to work.  I finally got the stalker out of my life - for awhile at least.  I hope they are both miserably happy with each other and finally leave me alone.  All of my stuff has been taken care of so I am free to be me for once.  So really there isn’t anything that is going to get me down ever again.

I have met a new friend who tantalizes my senses.   She is intriguing and I like that a lot.  I think I want to go camping or kayaking soon.  I have been so enjoying being out in the fresh air.  The last cancer test came back with 80% less active cells so I am hoping I will only have to have one more injection.  She did diagnose me with metabolic disorder.  When I saw her yesterday she said she wants to watch me like a hawk since both of my parents are gone now.

Life in a nutshell is pretty good.  No complaints here.

We went to a memorial service last night. It wasn’t just for Dad, but for all people who had passed over time. It was held in a mausoleum. The inside was lit up with candles. Cold hard marble covered the floors and walls. Hundreds of people were there paying their respects to their loved ones. Songs and prayers filled the room. A candlelight vigil was held. As we walked through this mausoleum, candle in hand, I thought about life, death, my own mortality. Yesterday was Mom’s birthday. The week of the funeral, Lorelei made this for grandma.

What is mortality? How do we know when that time comes we have done everything in the world we had wanted to do? When my mother died, I was just a child. I am thankful that my father got to meet his grandkids. My mom didn’t have that option. I think about if something happens to me, how will my loved ones deal with their grief. Many people in my life have passed away. Many people in my life have gone away. People I have loved and lost and others who might have loved me.  We grieve for different things in many ways.  Some grief is short lived.  Other can last much longer.  Nothing can compare to losing a parent. They gave us life. They gave us a beginning. Our parents raise us the best they can. We don’t get rule books when we have a child. There are no owner manuals. We take what we have learned from our own parents and society and do our best. We never know how or when our death will happen. It is always very sad when it does. Losing both my parents has taught me to cherish each day. The people in our lives who have brought us trouble and sadness, we can shrug off and hope the best for them. The others who have been there for you through thick and thin, we hold on to and show them our love and gratitude. And our own children… we love them more each day and make every day the best it can be.

My son is well taken care of if my time comes sooner than I want it to. My stepmother will soon legally be my mother and our family will be okay.

What part of have some compassion and stop stalking me do you not understand?  You already know that my father has died so spend some of your manic energy on your own life and out of mine.  My life should be no concern of yours but since you insist on being in the middle of it, I am very upset about his death.  My family is having a hard time with this because it was so very sudden.  I am hurt.  I am numb.  Happy now?

I don’t understand why people feel the need to expend so much energy to something that they don’t even have a purpose for. What will stalking me do to you?  Does it save your conscience knowing that I am hurting and this makes your vindictive behaviors worth it?  Is it worth all the time and energy spent to nosy into  my life having to know every detail?  If you are that curious - just call.  I am sure you are resourceful enough to have gotten my number again.  I asked you kindly to stay out and leave me and my family be.  This is a hard time for us and I thank you for your concern, but send flowers, and find it somewhere in the void you call a heart to just leave us be.

THEVE, Robert

THEVE Robert L. “Bob”, 59, passed away at his residence on Monday, April 21, 2008. He was the son of the late Edwin L. and Mary Belle (Wright) Theve. Husband of Rita L. (Bohannon) Theve, father of Michelle Theve and Chris (Beth) Theve, grandfather of Matthew and Lorelei Theve and Catherine and Geoffry Sheldon, brother of Mary L. Theve, plus many other relatives and friends. Bob was a member of Avon Masonic Lodge, Hilltop DeMolay Chapter Mt. Healthy, the first Illustrious Knight Commander of Ohio State Priory (1970), Order of the Eastern Stars, Scottish Rite of the Valley of Cincinnati and the Grotto. He also served his country with the 123rd Air TAC USAFR Blue Ash, Ohio. Visitation will be Thursday 5-8 PM at the Vitt, Stermer & Anderson Funeral Home 4619 Delhi Rd. Funeral service Friday 10 AM at the funeral home. Interment will be at St. Joe New Cemetery, Delhi.

We buried him today. Last night I couldn’t even go near the casket. In fact I avoided it like the Bubonic Plague. As much as he put me through growing up and as much as I resented him for things that were done and said, he was still my father. I am the first born. I have now lost both of my natural parents. I am only 36. My stepmother has been married to my father for 19 years. I have known her longer than I knew my natural mother. My niece burst into tears the the service this morning when she realized Grandpa isn’t coming back. My son stayed strong all week for me until today at the cemetery and broke down during TAPS. The Masons did their service and Rev. Pat King officiated for us. He has known my father for 38 years. I felt so badly that I had forgotten to call my God-Father, John. He found out through the lodge though. I also found out that his wife has severe MS. She couldn’t make it. I found my father’s best friend. He made it. I still haven’t gotten a hold of Deanna, but I have an address for her and will stop by when I am out her way tomorrow. Both of my best friends from 7th grade were there with me. Michael was a life-saver.  My ex was there too. Mr. Jax, who manages Jack Ruby Enterprises, was also there. He knew my father quite well. He was a loved man. He had his faults, but who doesn’t. He was a husband, brother, father and grandfather. I can’t believe he is gone. I don’t want to believe it. Listening to my brother sleep in his chair made it seem even more unreal. I want to go back to Monday. I want this week to end. I want to have never existed. He will be greatly missed.

To my stalker - please have some compassion and consideration to stop stalking me while we are trying to deal with this. I don’t need the stress.

I miss you Dad.

Dad died suddenly Monday night.  It has been a very sad week.  I have now lost both of my parents but I am so happy to have my stepmother. The obituary was in the Cincinnati Enquirer yesterday.

Funeral arrangements for Dad

Visitation
Thursday April 24, 2008
5-8 PM
Vitt, Stermer & Anderson
4619 Delhi Pike
Cincinnati, OH 45238
(513) 921-0110

Internment
Friday April 25, 2008
St Joseph’s Cemetery on Covedale
10 AM at Vitt, Stermer & Anderson

In lieu of flowers, we are requesting donations to:
American Heart Association
2936 Vernon PL
Cincinnati, OH 45219
(513) 423-2142

Just died.

I love the drive-in. Where else can you go and watch 3 movies for $8, see old time cartoons, and watch retro intermission advertisement? We had a blast last night. Front row, curled up in camping chairs, weather just cool enough for a sweater and cuddled under blankets when it got cooler.Drillbit Taylor ***

This movie was fun for the whole family to watch. A little violent for the younger kids, but definitely amusing. Drillbit is a AWOL US Army man who is living on the streets. He takes his showers on the beach and feeds off the people of the city. The boys are your typical freshmen, new to a school, awkward, and out of place. The perfect target for the local school bully. The bullying gets worst as the weeks go on and the boys decided to hire a bodyguard. Drillbit takes the job on the notion this money will get him to Canada. A great movie about the trials and tribulations of youth, trust, and making new friends.

The Spiderwyck Chronicles *****

Great family movie. The Grace family moves into their Aunt’s creepy house in the middle of no where. The children are dealing with the break up of their parents. Jared decides to explore the things going bump in the house and finds a hidden room through the dumbwaiter. Goblins, hobgoblins, faeries and sylphs surround this tale of adventure and danger.

The Ruins ***

*NUDITY* The Ruins is about a group of college kids vacationing in Mexico. When they meet up with a German, their life gets more interesting. They go to visit an ancient Mayan ruin well off the maps. What they find there will change their life - if they live through it. Flowers that imitate phones and humans, flesh eating vines and some angry villagers make up this movie. While good, I wish someone would make a good scary movie!

Here are some more for your viewing enjoyment…

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